Hey Ram

Yes forgiveness is important…. Forgiveness is not tolerance nor is it agreeing to the mistakes committed. It is I guess understanding the mistake, empathizing with it completely and then probably accepting it and letting it go. It as I now understand is difficult to say and still difficult to practice. But is it impossible?

Sita made a mistake crossing the Lakhman rekha. Or was it a mistake atall? Did Ram forgive her or did he fail to forgive himself? Can one forgive others? Is it possible to completely empathize with the other. How I syntheses ‘mistake’ with ‘the other’, they are different aren’t they? But how can one completely understand the mistake without understanding the other? Sita could have easily choose to live in the palace instead she chose Ram. Was it a difficult decision for her? well she married Ram not the prince of Ayodha. But was not Ram the prince of Ayodha? To her eyes he was just Ram. Just Ram to whom she love.
To Ram letting go the crown was easy. His father requested him and he left. Probably being a king after disobeying his father was much difficult. But did he balance it in his head? NO. He did not make the decision the path was already chosen. He took pride in walking that path, he probably would have taken as much pride becoming a king. But he did not let the choice bother him. But for sita she chose. She made the decision to be with the one she loved. Nobody asked her to leave the palace. Ram would have still gone to forest with her or without. And Sita knew this and so did Ram.
Did Sita ever doubt her decision? If you choose you know there are choices… every time you choose, you are aware of the choices. Without doubt there is no choice. The moment doubt seizes to exist so does choices. Every time you choose your decision triumphs over doubts but surly it doesn’t kills its existence because you are making a choice never the less. With killing doubts you are killing the possibility of choices and it becomes a default. With keeping the doubts alive you are giving a chance to your decisions to win. Not making it a default and giving your decision the due respect.
As long as you make choices you are open to mistakes. What is a mistake? A wrong choice? but was it not a mistake to keep the wrong choice alive in the first place? Sita crossed the Lakshman rekha. Ram was not there with her. She knew it can be crossed. If ram was around would she still had crossed the line? Ram would never know. And sita???
Ravan was everything that ram was not? Ravan came all the way from lanka for her. And sita knew ram could have easily left her in the palace alone in Ayodha. Ravan was powerful, he was rich, he was a rakshash and it was a forest. Though it was far from Lanka but ravan was at ease as if he was home. But was ravan, sita’s choice?
Sita just crossed the Lakshman rekha to open herself to the possibilities that she knew existed. Ravan was waiting at right time right place. Ram defeated ravan once before in the swyamvar to win her heart. But that was a palace this was a forest where rule of the jungle takes over. It was just a the rekha that stopped ravan to enter the sita’s hut. Because the rule of the jungle did not penetrated the rekha. One side was shame the other side freedom. Neither shame nor freedom was permanent. What if ravan could have entered sita’s hut even if that means with sita’s invitation. But ravan could not do that. It was sita who crossed it.
Ravan had to die. The puroshuttam Ram could not empathize with ravan and could not forgive him. Ravan was punished. Punish for what for not crossing the rekha? But sita? She had to walk on fire. Even then ram failed to hold her hand and walk along with her on fire. Sita wanted to walk alone. But why? Was it her arrogance that stopped her to ask ram to hold her hand? Did ram not kill ravan to prove he is worthy. The point is Ram never offered his hand. It was Sita who crossed the rekha and it was sita who had to walk on the fire. Ram did nothing just killed ravan. For what?
His killing ravan had nothing to do with gaining back sita, or else sita did not have walk on fire. He would have accepted her the way she was. Was it ram’s choice to kill ravan?

How would have ram liked to be loved? As a default or a triumph over all the options sita had. Ram failed to bear it hence let go sita. Ram never had choices he could not bear being just a choice himself even if that meant winning over others in sita’s heart.
Ram sent sita away inspite walking on the fire. Her mistake, was It worth forgiveness? Was it a mistake atall? Ram’s incompetency of taking action was it salvaged with killing of ravan?